Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Defining Love Part I

The language of your childhood, which is born from the patterns observed in your familial home and deeply ingrained in your consciousness, colors your understanding of love.

To illustrate this point, consider the example of individuals who participate in, what most would consider to be, an abusive relationship. Why do they stay in the relationship AND how can they say they love their abuser? It doesn't seem to make sense.

These individuals are equating pain and love, most probably because that is the language they learned during their formative years.

Unfortunately, ingrained in our societal consciousness is the idea that "true love" must be unconditional. This allows people to falsely believe that "love" is present even in an abusive situation where there is a high disregard for another.

In order to sever this aberrative connection, the energy pattern surrounding the original abusive events must be examined, addressed, and released --- or this person is most likely to repeat this same unhealthy behavior in every relationship going forward.

Next up ... what does unconditional really mean?

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