Friday, August 12, 2016

Numerology: How To Figure Out Your Life Path Number

Here's some information to keep in mind when you are figuring out anything to do with numerology.

There are eleven numbers used in constructing numerology charts: 1 through 9; 11; and 22. Larger numbers that occur from adding the numbers in the complete birth date are reduced by adding the digits together until one of these core numbers is achieved. Eleven and twenty-two are considered master numbers, so they are not reduced. Master numbers are intensified versions of the single digit they replace. For 11, it replaces 2. For 22, it replaces 4. 

Life Path Number Calculations:

Write your birth date on a piece of paper and add up the digits. As an example, if your birth date was December 15, 1983, this is how you would figure out your life path number.

1.  December, the 12th month, equals 1+2
2.  The 15th of the month equals 1+5
3.  The year 1983 equals 1+9+8+3
4.  After you add up all those numbers, your answer is 30.
5.  You then reduce 30 down to a one digit number (3+0)

        Month      Day           Year            Total
        1+2     +   1+5    +   1+9+8+3   =     30   

                              3+0        =     3

Using this number, refer to the Nine Life Path descriptions listed below (plus the two bonus master numbers).

Remember, your Life Path Number indicates the major lesson to be learned and the potential abilities and obstacles which accompany it. This number also tells what a person is really like and what he/she is naturally best suited to do. 

Again, this is just for fun so don't take it very seriously.


1. Pioneer:  known for being original; assertive; bold; charismatic; impulsive; innovative; focused; inspired; quick; achiever; stands out from crowd

A "pioneer" could be: a political leader; celebrity; small business owner

Pitfalls: arrogance; impatience; not listening; may be shy and too impulsive

2. Nurturer:  known for being cautious; relationship-oriented; artistic; nurturing; sensitive; affectionate; cooperative; loving; peace-maker; ideal partner; needs harmony, order, right relationship

A "nurturer" could be: in the diplomatic corps, a counselor, a partner in a small business

Pitfalls: codependency; overcautious; lonely

3. Communicator:  known for being a quick thinker; spontaneous; social; magnetic; gift of gab; synthesizer; deal-maker; outgoing; joy of life

A "communicator" could be: a press secretary, party planner, small business promoter

Pitfalls: fears routine; over optimistic; indulgent; may lack self-discipline

4. Doer: known for being pragmatic; systematic; planner, determined; problem-solver; builder, manager 

A "doer" could be an administrator; team player; work in a back office in small business

Pitfalls: stubbornness; workaholism; rigid; needs security so fears downsizing/unfamiliar routine

5. Disseminator:  known for being active, magnetic; outgoing, risk-taker; quick thinker; unpredictable; entrepreneurial; curious; bold; enjoys finer things

A "disseminator" could be a public figure; media; developer of ideas for small business

Pitfalls: scattered; unreliable; poor boundaries; restlessness to point of boredom; easily side-tracked

6. Teacher: known for being careful; conscientious; reliable; nurturing; service and/or community and family oriented; traditional; warm; happily domestic

A "teacher" could be a personal assistant; educator; caterer

Pitfalls: overbearing; smothering; martyrdom; may end up feeling like a doormat

7. Researcher: known for being innovative; intelligent; deep; careful; spiritual; scholarly; a loner, curious; analytical 

A "researcher" could be in the analytical field or self-employed in small business

Pitfalls: contentious; skeptical; secretive; aloof; loner; fears not living up to high standards

8. Executive: known for being business-like; conservative; powerful; analytical; big-picture thinker; pragmatic; decision-maker; accomplished; good with money

An "executive" could be in the professional field; an operator of a small business franchise

Pitfalls: domineering; cold; judgmental; lacks feeling for those who stand in the way

9. Philosopher: known for being open-minded; loves history, literature, arts; tends to have a higher education; sees big picture

A "philosopher" could be a community leader; an organizer of small business owners

Pitfalls: vagueness; talking/not doing; unmotivated

Master Numbers

11. visionary; artist; wants to expand consciousness; wants to be enlightened and enlighten others

Could be in the metaphysical small business with far reaching appeal

Pitfalls: avoids extremes; too high-strung; impractical

22. goal-oriented and practical but on a global scale; has a mission and wants to see it carried out globally

Could be a provider of web sites to small business for total global change

Pitfalls: may feel born a century too early; overextended

Next blog will tell you how to figure out your destiny number.

Tuesday, August 9, 2016

Just For Fun: Numerology

Disclaimer: This is just for fun, so try not to be duly influenced by the information provided.

If you are looking for love and want to do it by the "numbers", I'll be writing a series of blog posts that tell you how to figure out all sorts of stuff using the ancient art of numerology.

Numerology, which is the study of numbers and their meaning to determine their supposed influence on one’s life, future, etc., holds some validity. However, it is all in the interpretation. Moreover, these numbers are simply indicative of patterns or cycles. Every individual has the free will to create his/her life in a personal fashion and should not feel hampered by any labels assigned by these numbers.

That said – it’s still fun to look at your personal numbers! Some of the information that can be derived from numerology includes:

Life Path/Birth Path
This number will tell you the major lesson to be learned in this life and the potential abilities and obstacles which accompany it. This is considered to be the most important number, for it tells what one is like and what he/she is naturally and best suited to do. This is derived from adding up the numbers in your birth date.

This number identifies potential talents and abilities, as well as your mission in life. This number is derived from the letters in your birth name. Keep in mind that this number can change if your name changes.

Soul Urge/Heart’s Desire
This number describes your inner motivation and reflects the foundation of your beliefs and attitudes towards life. This number, which is derived from the vowels in your name, reflects what you instinctively know but which may not be obvious to the outside world.

This number describes how you appear to others – the first impression you make. On a deeper level, it could describe the social mask you use to protect yourself. This number is derived from the consonants in your name.

Karmic Lesson
This number describes your lesson to be learned in this life. It is derived by looking at what numbers are missing from your birth name. If more than one is missing, you may have more than one lesson to learn.

My next post will tell you how to figure out your Life Path number.

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Wednesday, March 9, 2016

Tips and Thoughts on Relationships

Remember ... it's not only the actions you do take that matter.
What matters, too, are the ones you don't take.

Push away the drama in your life.
Love does NOT have to be a "high wire" act.
You can experience the highs of love with your feet planted firmly on the ground and in reality.
You don't need to be 100 feet up in the air,
 walking a thin wire worrying about falling into the mundane.
The mundane - or completing the sometimes boring tasks of life -
that is the place where real love blooms.

Are you a fence sitter or wallflower that's always waiting for the "right" time OR
for someone else to invite you to join in?
If you want something (or someone), be BOLD and make the first move!
You'll probably discover that most everyone is afraid of rejection,
and others will appreciate you stepping up to get the ball rolling.
Follow the advice of William Shakespeare who wrote: "Boldness, be my friend."

Even if you believe that you have a fated destiny,
you still retain your free will on how you will travel towards it.
Will you do it the hard way or the easy way?
Will you learn your lessons quickly or have to repeat a bad pattern many times
before you choose to follow a different path?

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Tuesday, December 1, 2015

Tips on Relationships

Although grand gestures for special occasions are appreciated,
it’s really the everyday little things that strengthen a relationship.
Each person has his own love language.
Learn your partner’s language, so you can recognize both
the actions and words of love conveyed to you. 

The lives of others may look picture perfect to you,
but the grass is NOT greener on the other side.
It’s simply another shade of green.
Instead of harboring jealous feelings,
work on building the life you want in your very own back yard

 What the “crowd” likes and accepts is always changing,
so if you’re not being true to yourself and simply tag along with the crowd,
you’re always going to be left behind.
Embrace your inner weirdness and walk to your own drumbeat.
 Be the one who interestingly stands out!  

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Monday, August 17, 2015

Five Tips on How To Date With Success

Consider the following five ideas, which can help you to date with success.

1. There are many similarities between dating and marketing. The same twelve most persuasive words apply to all forms of communication: discovery, easy, guarantee, health, caring, money, new, proven, results, safety, saving, and you! When dating, the product “for sale” is YOU! 

2. Discovery is the most fun of all in the dating process. Let yourself be fascinated by the different people with whom you can connect via Internet dating or other venues. This is a time to increase your sphere of knowledge about others and the world. 

3. Everyone likes things to be easy, and it's a bonus if it comes with a guarantee! Make uncomplicated arrangements to meet when setting up your dates. Be open to different ideas without having to agree; be emotionally honest (game free); go with the flow; and enjoy a date for what it is without grand expectations. Of course, there are no guarantees when it comes to relationships, but you can make a guarantee to yourself that you will simply enjoy the time out with a particular person – even if it is only a one-time occurrence. 

4. It is not necessary to spend a lot of money to have fun on a date. For example, prepare a picnic, take a walk, or attend a street fair. Take some time to plan an activity for a first meeting. If it involves walking, looking at or doing something concrete, you will find that there is ample fodder for conversation. Furthermore, this will probably be less nerve wracking compared to simply sitting across the table and staring into a person’s eyes. Activities can also provide a more in-depth peek into a person’s personality, for you can find out some likes and dislikes by just observing. 

5. Be mindful of another’s wallet when going on a date. It is easy to be a “cheap date” and this will probably be appreciated. No need to order the most expensive item on a menu plus an appetizer, dessert and drinks. It’s also easier to carry on a conversation, if you are not preoccupied with eating or being caught with food in your teeth!

Beauty is only skin deep.
If you go after someone just because 
she's beautiful but don't have anything to talk about, 
it's going to get boring fast. 
You want to look beyond the surface 
and see if you can have fun or 
if you have anything in common with this person.
-Amanda Peet-

Tuesday, December 23, 2014

Tips For Dating After Loss

Dating Before You're Ready For Another Relationship Is 
Simply Practice For When The Real Thing Comes Along

On the average, two years is a healthy time to wait before starting to date after the loss of a spouse from death. After a divorce or break-up, it is equally important to take some time for yourself and by yourself. No matter the circumstances, the experience of losing a partner changes you, and it's necessary for you to figure out who that new person is before jumping into a new relationship. 

If you're anxious for companionship, what you could do is “practice” date before you're truly ready to re-partner. However, realize you are not in the right frame of mind to make a lasting commitment until you're done healing your wounded heart. 

Mourning your last relationship BEFORE moving into a new relationship is imperative for a successful outcome. 

Come To Know The Difference Between
Loneliness and Honest Attraction 

When you are lonely and vulnerable, it is easy to be flattered by attention from prospective partners and mistake those feelings for true emotional compatibility. Keep those heady feelings in check while you get to really know someone. Deep and meaningful relationships take lots of time to develop. 

What we resist, persists. 

In resistance, you give energy to a thought or feeling, and the universe has no choice but to reflect it back to you. When you block the flow of energy (by resisting), you stop it from being released. If you are steeped in your loneliness, those feelings will continue to persist until you change your thoughts regarding this matter. 

Try to imagine that the universe is a giant mirror and whatever you project out is reflected back into your life. If you don’t believe that there are men and women of quality for you to meet or that both sexes are untrustworthy, then these are the types of people who you will encounter. In actuality, it is your own demeanor and belief system that are drawing these less than desirable types to you. You have set up an expectation, and the universe and you will look to fulfill and validate it.

Monday, August 18, 2014

Tips for Healthy Relationships

Amy Poehler said: "I want to be around people that do things. I don't want to be around people anymore that judge or talk about what people do. I want to be around people who dream and support and do things."

Negative people focus on what’s wrong and complain. Positive people may focus on a problem but then think of ways to turn it around. 

With whom are YOU spending your time and is it impacting your vision of yourself and the world around you? 

Sshh! Never fail to know that, if you are doing all the talking, you are boring someone. 

Conversation is a two-way street. Think of it like a volleyball game. It’s the job of the participants to keep the ball up in the air and transfer control back and forth. Additionally, sometimes it’s your turn to serve (be in charge) and, at other times, you must cede control to the other team.  

Tom Arnold said, "It’s easy to enjoy each other while on vacation in Maui. The key is find someone you can have fun with during the six hour fight over there."

Big events such as celebrations and vacations are terrific. However, life is lived and love is expanded in all the little mundane moments. Don’t let any moments (big or small) pass you by without feeling grateful for being able to share your life with your partner. 

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