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Wednesday, March 9, 2016

Tips and Thoughts on Relationships

Remember ... it's not only the actions you do take that matter.
What matters, too, are the ones you don't take.


Push away the drama in your life.
Love does NOT have to be a "high wire" act.
You can experience the highs of love with your feet planted firmly on the ground and in reality.
You don't need to be 100 feet up in the air,
 walking a thin wire worrying about falling into the mundane.
The mundane - or completing the sometimes boring tasks of life -
that is the place where real love blooms.


Are you a fence sitter or wallflower that's always waiting for the "right" time OR
for someone else to invite you to join in?
If you want something (or someone), be BOLD and make the first move!
You'll probably discover that most everyone is afraid of rejection,
and others will appreciate you stepping up to get the ball rolling.
Follow the advice of William Shakespeare who wrote: "Boldness, be my friend."



Even if you believe that you have a fated destiny,
you still retain your free will on how you will travel towards it.
Will you do it the hard way or the easy way?
Will you learn your lessons quickly or have to repeat a bad pattern many times
before you choose to follow a different path?




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Tuesday, December 1, 2015

Tips on Relationships

Although grand gestures for special occasions are appreciated,
it’s really the everyday little things that strengthen a relationship.
Each person has his own love language.
Learn your partner’s language, so you can recognize both
the actions and words of love conveyed to you. 

The lives of others may look picture perfect to you,
but the grass is NOT greener on the other side.
It’s simply another shade of green.
Instead of harboring jealous feelings,
work on building the life you want in your very own back yard
.

 What the “crowd” likes and accepts is always changing,
so if you’re not being true to yourself and simply tag along with the crowd,
you’re always going to be left behind.
Embrace your inner weirdness and walk to your own drumbeat.
 Be the one who interestingly stands out!  


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Monday, August 17, 2015

Five Tips on How To Date With Success

Consider the following five ideas, which can help you to date with success.

1. There are many similarities between dating and marketing. The same twelve most persuasive words apply to all forms of communication: discovery, easy, guarantee, health, caring, money, new, proven, results, safety, saving, and you! When dating, the product “for sale” is YOU! 

2. Discovery is the most fun of all in the dating process. Let yourself be fascinated by the different people with whom you can connect via Internet dating or other venues. This is a time to increase your sphere of knowledge about others and the world. 

3. Everyone likes things to be easy, and it's a bonus if it comes with a guarantee! Make uncomplicated arrangements to meet when setting up your dates. Be open to different ideas without having to agree; be emotionally honest (game free); go with the flow; and enjoy a date for what it is without grand expectations. Of course, there are no guarantees when it comes to relationships, but you can make a guarantee to yourself that you will simply enjoy the time out with a particular person – even if it is only a one-time occurrence. 

4. It is not necessary to spend a lot of money to have fun on a date. For example, prepare a picnic, take a walk, or attend a street fair. Take some time to plan an activity for a first meeting. If it involves walking, looking at or doing something concrete, you will find that there is ample fodder for conversation. Furthermore, this will probably be less nerve wracking compared to simply sitting across the table and staring into a person’s eyes. Activities can also provide a more in-depth peek into a person’s personality, for you can find out some likes and dislikes by just observing. 

5. Be mindful of another’s wallet when going on a date. It is easy to be a “cheap date” and this will probably be appreciated. No need to order the most expensive item on a menu plus an appetizer, dessert and drinks. It’s also easier to carry on a conversation, if you are not preoccupied with eating or being caught with food in your teeth!


Beauty is only skin deep.
If you go after someone just because 
she's beautiful but don't have anything to talk about, 
it's going to get boring fast. 
You want to look beyond the surface 
and see if you can have fun or 
if you have anything in common with this person.
-Amanda Peet-











Tuesday, December 23, 2014

Tips For Dating After Loss

Dating Before You're Ready For Another Relationship Is 
Simply Practice For When The Real Thing Comes Along


On the average, two years is a healthy time to wait before starting to date after the loss of a spouse from death. After a divorce or break-up, it is equally important to take some time for yourself and by yourself. No matter the circumstances, the experience of losing a partner changes you, and it's necessary for you to figure out who that new person is before jumping into a new relationship. 

If you're anxious for companionship, what you could do is “practice” date before you're truly ready to re-partner. However, realize you are not in the right frame of mind to make a lasting commitment until you're done healing your wounded heart. 

Mourning your last relationship BEFORE moving into a new relationship is imperative for a successful outcome. 



Come To Know The Difference Between
Loneliness and Honest Attraction 



When you are lonely and vulnerable, it is easy to be flattered by attention from prospective partners and mistake those feelings for true emotional compatibility. Keep those heady feelings in check while you get to really know someone. Deep and meaningful relationships take lots of time to develop. 





What we resist, persists. 

 
In resistance, you give energy to a thought or feeling, and the universe has no choice but to reflect it back to you. When you block the flow of energy (by resisting), you stop it from being released. If you are steeped in your loneliness, those feelings will continue to persist until you change your thoughts regarding this matter. 




Try to imagine that the universe is a giant mirror and whatever you project out is reflected back into your life. If you don’t believe that there are men and women of quality for you to meet or that both sexes are untrustworthy, then these are the types of people who you will encounter. In actuality, it is your own demeanor and belief system that are drawing these less than desirable types to you. You have set up an expectation, and the universe and you will look to fulfill and validate it.

Monday, August 18, 2014

Tips for Healthy Relationships




Amy Poehler said: "I want to be around people that do things. I don't want to be around people anymore that judge or talk about what people do. I want to be around people who dream and support and do things."

Negative people focus on what’s wrong and complain. Positive people may focus on a problem but then think of ways to turn it around. 

With whom are YOU spending your time and is it impacting your vision of yourself and the world around you? 







Sshh! Never fail to know that, if you are doing all the talking, you are boring someone. 

Conversation is a two-way street. Think of it like a volleyball game. It’s the job of the participants to keep the ball up in the air and transfer control back and forth. Additionally, sometimes it’s your turn to serve (be in charge) and, at other times, you must cede control to the other team.  








Tom Arnold said, "It’s easy to enjoy each other while on vacation in Maui. The key is find someone you can have fun with during the six hour fight over there."

Big events such as celebrations and vacations are terrific. However, life is lived and love is expanded in all the little mundane moments. Don’t let any moments (big or small) pass you by without feeling grateful for being able to share your life with your partner. 


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Tuesday, July 1, 2014

3 Tips on How To Have a Healthy Relationship

The Boiling Frog Syndrome





Beware the Boiling Frog Syndrome, which states the following rule: If a frog is placed in a pot of boiling water, he'll immediately jump out of it to protect himself.

However, if you place a frog in a pot of cool to room temperature water and slowly turn up the fire until it reaches a boil, he won't notice the subtle change in temperature and will be boiled alive. 

Here's how to extrapolate this principle to the state of your relationship. 

You know when you're in boiling water with a partner. However, it's not so easy to recognize when things are slowly going awry. The lesson: Pay Attention! Big things often have small beginnings. It's possible to remedy an issue before it gets out of hand and seems unconquerable.


There Are No "Shoulds"





Don't hide you vast magnificence simply to fit into someone else's preconceived notion of who he/she thinks you should be. Only YOU get to decide who you are! Walk tall to your own drumbeat.


Honesty is the Best Policy





Make sure to build your relationship upon a strong foundation, which includes honesty, respect,and open communication, so it doesn't crumble during times of trouble.


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Saturday, June 14, 2014

Relationships Start With You




Love won't solve all your problems OR make it a perfect world. It will, however, provide a partner with whom you can face the everyday assault of the slings and arrows upon your soul. 
And that will make all the difference.




Be patient with love.
Desperation never catches anything healthy.




Always walk to your own moral drumbeat. Often, when others observe bold behavior, it makes them feel uncomfortable because they realize they are too fearful to exhibit the same. In turn, they may reject you rather than confronting their own failings.




Whether you're in a relationship or not, the person with whom you spend the most amount of time is YOU! 
That's why it's so important to love and enjoy your own company. Then you're never lonely because you find yourself so entertaining or are easily amused by life in general.


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