Friday, August 26, 2011

Can Separate Bedrooms Save A Relationship?

As much as you may like to snuggle up with your honey, it is also important to get a good night’s sleep so you can address each day refreshed and renewed. Sometimes that is just not possible when your partner is sawing logs all night! In truth, a great majority of people snore, although no one likes to admit it!

Maclean’s, a Canadian magazine, reports, “That steam engine in your bed is bad for your health, worse for your marriage.” A lack of a good night’s sleep is often responsible for grumpiness, a short temper and an argumentative temperament – all characteristics of trouble in paradise.

So, even though you may be hesitant to have separate bedrooms because you believe it will mean the demise of romance, it can have just the opposite effect. When you wake up after a good night’s sleep, you are better able to cope with all that confronts you, including possible conflict with a partner. Accordingly, a sleep deprived person may take offense at every word, while a rested person can pick his or her battles well.

Think of separate bedrooms as simply meaning that there is a bed set up in another room where one or the other of you can retreat when a partner’s snoring keeps you up. This still allows for romance. You can start the evening together, be intimate, indulge in pillow talk, and fall asleep in one another’s arms. However, it will also allow you to get your needed rest.

In fact, all the rage in Hollywood and other upscale communities is the snoratorium, which is a small but comfortable room adjacent to the master suite. It's like a nursery for adults! It is a place where the noisier sleeper can retreat, giving both parties the opportunity for a restful sleep. Mark Nash, author of 1001 Tips for Buying and Selling a Home, suggests that the perfect snoratorium should be fitted with a double bed to encourage occasional visits from a compassionate spouse.

Additionally, although it may not be labeled a snoratorium, according to the U.S. National Association of Home Builders, by the year 2015, 60% of new upscale homes will be built with dual master bedrooms.

So, as it seems, you may not be the only one who is snoring up a storm tonight!

And for those of you who are not yet in a relationship but are dating and headed towards a first sleepover, are you excited yet hesitant because of your sleeping habits? One woman stated, “I am dreading meeting a new guy. When he stays over, he’s going to find my snoring such a turn off.” (Maclean’s) 

Don’t let this be a stumbling block for you. If you find yourself in this predicament, you can broach the subject in a light hearted manner. On the other hand, do you really think it will be an issue the first time you are intimate with a partner? After all, how much “sleeping” is going to be going on!!

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