Monday, October 25, 2010

Profound Questions To Ask

The simplest questions are the most profound. 
Where were you born? 
Where is your home? 
Where are you going? 
What are you doing? 
Think about these once in a while and watch your answers change. 
Richard Bach
Let's look at each of these questions from two perspectives as I illustrate how you can answer them simply or delve for a deeper meaning.
Taken at face value, this question simply asks for the physical location of your birth.
Consider taking it one step deeper ...
Aren’t you constantly being reborn as you move through new circumstances in your life? With increased introspective thought, you can come to know yourself in more depth and with more clarity. After experiencing loss, your soul is laid bare. As you rebuild, you can be whomever you wish. It is a rebirth  -- a true do-over.
Taken at face value, this question simply asks for the place you live.
Consider taking it one step deeper ...
Where is your true home? Is it a physical place or a state of mind? Is it with your blood relatives or with your family of friends? Is it the place where people truly understand you and the circumstances of your life? Is it a place where you feel you can breathe?  Is home simply the place where you can be the true you? Take some time to decide on your definition of home.
Taken at face value, this question simply asks for the physical location of where you are going, for example, the store, on a trip, to work, etc.
Consider taking it one step deeper ...
This question could also be asking the following. "Are you lost in your life with no idea how to move forward from the place where you find yourself?" "Do you even know where you want to go?" "Are you afraid to leave the place where you are because you think that would mean leaving behind a lost loved one?" Think about where you want to go and then take the appropriate actions to get there. You don't have to decide on the final destination. Pick a small and attainable goal and when you accomplish it, pick a new one to work towards.
Taken at face value, this question simply asks you to share in what activities you are partaking; what tasks you are completing at work; what you are doing in your leisure time, etc.
Consider taking it one step deeper ...
This question can also be a wake-up call, depending on which word you accent. Listen to how the meaning changes when you ask the same question in different ways.
WHAT are you doing? 
What are YOU doing?
What are you DOING?
When “what” and “doing” are emphasized, the message is disdain towards or disbelief in  the person’s actions. When the “you” is emphasized, the message is one of true interest in what the other person is accomplishing. Your tone is a powerful instrument; use it carefully.

Additionally, this question can also ask, “What are you doing with your life?” "What are you doing to make yourself feel better?” or “Are you living in denial?” You may be at the stage where rather than "doing" you are just "being." Take that time to decide what you would like to do when you are ready to move forward.
As Richard Bach suggests, ask yourself these questions often as you move through various stages in your life. As a work-in-progress, and, if you are taking positive steps forward (even if they are baby steps), then your answers will constantly fluctuate. If you find that your answers to these questions are forever constant, you might want to consider that you could be stuck in your emotions and ask for a helping hand.

No comments:

Post a Comment