Wednesday, July 28, 2010

How To Let Go of Fear

Fear is perpetuated by two factors: (1) the unknown and (2) the repeating of the known. So, we are both afraid of something new, and, at the same time, afraid of repeating past mistakes or similar situations. This clearly reflects the duality of life.

It is scary, yet exhilarating to try something new. In this situation, it is important to have self confidence in your ability to conquer any mountain. When you exude confidence, you inspire others to see you in that light, too. Your innate confidence makes your success a self-fulfilling prophecy.

It is also scary to enter a familiar scenario where there is the possibility of the past repeating itself (for example, opening up your heart and then losing your love again). In this situation, it is important to remember that if you are aware of the pitfalls and can accept that they will always be there, then you have a better chance of reaching a more successful conclusion.

And, sometimes we've done our work, and we "know" the reasons why we are afraid. Knowing is sometimes not enough. The key is acceptance and the subsequent permission to feel good about yourself as you are and your circumstances. You also need to give yourself permission to take a leap of faith into the unknown and to know you will be okay if you experience loss again.

If we were perfect and had learned all our lessons, there would be no reason for us to be on this planet. We would be done. Life is about learning and moving through our experiences with the allowance to be weak and strong; leader and follower; giver and taker; teacher and student, etc. all rolled up in one. It is our dual nature not to be one or the other, but both at the same time, and we need to know that it is okay to feel each way. Humans should always be a work in progress -- learning and growing from experience, mistakes, and good and hard times.

To release your fear of the known, recognize that you have the power to let go of the past and not repeat unwanted outcomes (within your control).

To release your fear of the unknown, accept and trust yourself while having confidence in your ability to succeed in whatever circumstance you find yourself.

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