Tuesday, December 23, 2014

Tips For Dating After Loss

Dating Before You're Ready For Another Relationship Is 
Simply Practice For When The Real Thing Comes Along

On the average, two years is a healthy time to wait before starting to date after the loss of a spouse from death. After a divorce or break-up, it is equally important to take some time for yourself and by yourself. No matter the circumstances, the experience of losing a partner changes you, and it's necessary for you to figure out who that new person is before jumping into a new relationship. 

If you're anxious for companionship, what you could do is “practice” date before you're truly ready to re-partner. However, realize you are not in the right frame of mind to make a lasting commitment until you're done healing your wounded heart. 

Mourning your last relationship BEFORE moving into a new relationship is imperative for a successful outcome. 

Come To Know The Difference Between
Loneliness and Honest Attraction 

When you are lonely and vulnerable, it is easy to be flattered by attention from prospective partners and mistake those feelings for true emotional compatibility. Keep those heady feelings in check while you get to really know someone. Deep and meaningful relationships take lots of time to develop. 

What we resist, persists. 

In resistance, you give energy to a thought or feeling, and the universe has no choice but to reflect it back to you. When you block the flow of energy (by resisting), you stop it from being released. If you are steeped in your loneliness, those feelings will continue to persist until you change your thoughts regarding this matter. 

Try to imagine that the universe is a giant mirror and whatever you project out is reflected back into your life. If you don’t believe that there are men and women of quality for you to meet or that both sexes are untrustworthy, then these are the types of people who you will encounter. In actuality, it is your own demeanor and belief system that are drawing these less than desirable types to you. You have set up an expectation, and the universe and you will look to fulfill and validate it.

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