You have worked long and hard on yourself and accepting your present circumstances. You now have a clearer picture of your new single self. You have also assessed your readiness and determined that, although you are fine with the possibility of being alone, you rather look for a new partner with whom to share your life.
Due to what you have heard from others, you might be a little hesitant to jump into the dating pool. Don’t worry about what others are saying. Your experience will be unique and your success or failure will be based on the attitude you hold throughout the process. Consider that the disgruntled remarks you may be hearing can simply be excuses people are making for themselves because they’re not finding success. You may want to take an objective look at their attitudes and the methods they’re employing to meet people. Rather than be turned off to dating, learn from their mistakes.
If you’ve already “put yourself out there” and can’t seem to find quality prospective dates, consider changing your patterns. After all, doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting different results is insanity, as defined by Albert Einstein.
Here are some suggestions on where to meet new people.
1. Frequent Different Places. Travel away from your beaten path by going to coffee places, bookstores, lectures, etc. in a different part of town than you normally would visit. Be the “new girl or guy” in town.
2. Join Groups or Volunteer. A great way to meet like-minded people is to join or volunteer for organizations you support. It’s a very natural way to meet others and it takes away the dating prowl tension.
3. Be a political activist. No matter which presidential candidate you like this year, it’s a great time to get involved in supporting a political candidate. You will find lots of passionate folks working for the things in which they believe.
4. Get a pet or borrow a baby. It’s hard to resist pets and babies. They are great conversation starters.
Here are seven other venues to consider.
1. Places of worship singles groups. (Find people of a similar faith.)
2. Single Parent Associations (These are folks that are interested in learning about good parenting techniques.)
3. Dining clubs. (Worst case scenario: you eat a good meal.)
4. Golf courses/Tennis clubs (In case you don’t meet anyone, at least you’ll get some exercise.)
5. Networking groups (Good chance these folks have jobs or they wouldn’t be networking.)
6. Single cruises/vacation packages (Meet people who like to travel or are adventurous.)
7. Dancing clubs (Meet those who like to “shake it up” vs. remaining a couch potato.)
The truth is that you can meet prospective dates in any venue. The important thing to remember is that you need to just get out there and make yourself visible.